The other night I was watching a ball game. I am a Pittsburgh Pirates fan. The Pirates were up against the Detroit Tigers. Major League Baseball… for those of you who don’t know. Justin Verlander was pitching for Detroit. He was just two little teeny weeny outs away from throwing a no-hitter. It would have been his third no-hitter. Holy Bat Boys!
So… in the bottom of the ninth inning of that game… I quit rooting for Pittsburgh and I was pulling for Detroit’s Verlander. But one of the Pirates got a base hit and hence….the spoiler.
You know, this is simply a minor example. But sometimes, we realize the side we are on may not be right … or it may not be as important… as a greater issue at hand.
Along those same lines…… there is an old phrase that goes… “Show me a good loser, and I’ll show you a loser.”
I’ve never been too keen on this phrase. The fact of the matter is… everybody can’t win all the time. There has to be a loser. I’ve never thought too highly of the losers that brood and stomp about. I just happen to think it is far better to show graciousness, and poise. ( I have not always done this… by the way. I’ve been a crappy loser at times in my life. But that is not the point. I am learning. )
Sometimes. We lose. Or…. we can be wrong about things. It is human nature. No one is perfect.
I never enter into any situation WANTING to lose. I want to do my best, and play well, and make good choices. Run faster. Leap higher. Be smarter.
But there are days when the other team will be better. Or perhaps, the other side of the coin is the one that was “right” all along. Heads it is.
Being kind and gracious isn’t always easy when we lose, or we are wrong. But it takes a strong and brilliant character. A confident identity. The Truest Champion.
And… if you can’t be a good loser all the time.. that’s okay. In those cases… feign a limp. While it is not exactly gracious… it is a heck of a good way to lessen the humiliation.
“Winning is not everything, but the effort to win is.”
“Your attitude, not your aptitude, will determine your altitude”
“You are the only person on earth who can use your ability.”